An open letter from Mr. Right



Dear daughters of God,

Contrary to what you have heard, I do exist. I’m no fairytale hunk with big muscles and thing for chick flicks (although, I may or may not have a man bun). So, put your daydreams of love off to the side for a minute and let me tell you what makes me, “Mr. Right” and why people keep telling you to wait for me.

The first thing I really want for you to understand is that I was not born your Mr. Right. I promise we weren’t destined to cross paths and lock eyes from across a crowded room and fall hopelessly in love. God has been working in my heart for YEARS! Do you realize what was in my heart before Christ saved me?! Of course you don’t because we haven’t met yet, but I can promise you it is equally as crazy and sinful as…

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15 Things Ambitious Girls Do A Little Bit Differently When They’re Dating

Spot on.

Thought Catalog


1.Their relationship will not take up 100% of their life, but they will put 100% into their relationship. It’s important to ambitious girls to have other priorities and things going on outside of their relationship. But that doesn’t mean they won’t give it their all when it comes to being happy with someone.

2.They’re not looking for a challenge, but they are looking for someone to challenge them. They’re not interested in the chase or winning the game. But they’re interested in being with someone who’s going to challenge them to be better and to grow every day.

3.Romance usually means something different to ambitious girls. They love dates and surprises just like the next girl. But in their minds, the most romantic thing in the world is being with someone who they can truly relate to, and someone who supports them in everything that…

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Recognize that the great religious struggle is not fought on a spectacular battleground, but within the ordinary human heart, when every morning we awake and feel the pressures of the day crowding in on us, and we must decide what sort of immortals we wish to be” (C.S. Lewis)

From Glory to Glory: Part 2

We all have a story to be used for the benefit of others and to reveal the limitless glory of God. Here is part of mine…

…BUT God being rich in mercy, because of the great love with which he loved us, even when we were dead in our trespasses, made us alive together with Christ – by grace you have been saved – and raised us up with him…

People say your story begins the day you are born, which is true…well really if we look throughout the Bible we see that our stories begin long before we are born. But for today my story begins in high school, when I really began to wrestle with God and what following Christ would mean for my life. In order to come face to face with Gods relentless love and grace I had to come to terms with a few things in my own life first. Things that now influence my passion to work with students today. First, I was (and still can be) a people pleaser. I loved being loved by everyone…and i’ll admit I didn’t mind all of the attention either. Second, I struggled with insecurities. Like most girls it was innate for me to play the comparison game and let me tell you I was a pro at it. I never felt like I quite measured up to what I viewed as all the drop dead gorgeous girls around me that all the guys loved and all the girls wanted to be friends with. Third, I didn’t have a grasp on what the gospel really meant for my life or who God had called me to be. These three things made for a not so graceful high school career and a messy transition but ultimately God used these things to bring me into His LIBERATING FREEDOM. …Rewind seven years to my sophomore year of high school. At this point I was on the cheerleading and track team (if you know me today you know that these are both still strong passions of mine) and meeting lots of new people and engaging in new friendships and relationships. As I stated earlier I just was not secure in who I was, don’t ask me why I don’t have a good answer, I just wasn’t. Because of this I sought after popularity and acceptance…and navigated towards who I thought would bring me that. Little did I know, that would require a lot of changing on my part both intentionally and unintentionally. As I sought after popularity and recognition I found myself drifting into the party scene. It was a new world for me and I loved it. I loved my new friendships and I loved the crazy and irresponsible adventures we got ourselves into. I was best friends with the girls I wanted to be like and I was getting the attention I wanted…so I thought.I began spending all of my time with these new friends and left behind my old ones…the ones who knew who I really was and continued on this search for identity. Now don’t get me wrong I loved my new friends and still cherish their friendships today. This went on for a couple of years…going into my senior year all the jazz of the party scene began to wear off and I began feeling like I didn’t measure up to the other girls again… I once again navigated to a new crowd a new scene. My party styles escalated and I started finding that I didn’t really know who I was anymore and I wasn’t so sure that I liked who I became. I had given up so much of myself, I felt like there was no going back. I gave up cheerleading and track in order to spend more time “living it up” so to speak. I invested my self into a relationship where I placed almost all of my identity into one guy…as you could imagine it didn’t turn out so well. I was enslaved to living for the acceptance of others. All throughout this time I had turned my back on the church, I didn’t enjoy going anymore I felt “judged” and like they just wanted to “control me”. I clinched my fists to God, and though I knew he had more for my life I didn’t want anything to do with it. But he continued to pursue me relentlessly. I saw him at work throughout these years of my life, both through his provision and protection. Through these years he also placed so women into my life who pursued me and simply lived out the gospel in my life. They stood by me at my darkest times and loved me anyways. God continued to stir my heart. I was tired. Tired of trying to please everyone. Tired of being someone I wasn’t. Tired of carrying around guilt and shame. Fast forward to college…My freshman year of college I began to RUN back to the church and quinch my thirst for the gospel. When people ask me what made me decide to surrender my life back to Christ I can never give an answer that doesn’t sound crazy other than all I remember that day is God clearly telling me that it was time to stop running, it was time to come home. And that I did…although it was not an easy process. There was a lot of baggage, hurt, shame, and regret I was carrying around. I had just went through a breakup with this guy that I had seemingly made my identity and didn’t have many friends to turn to. All I had to turn to was Christ and the women that he had placed in my life. Through their mentoring and Gods grace I began to become encompassed by Gods freedom and his love for me. I began to see what the gospel and the cross really meant for my life. I got a taste of the gospel and I could not turn back…my life would never be the same from that year forward and thank God for his grace in those moments. God began transforming my heart and redeeming my story…which has brought me to this blog series today.

More to come….

My debt is paid, it is paid in full by the precious blood that my Jesus spilled. Now the curse of sin has no hold on me. Whom the son sets free oh is free indeed!

From Glory to Glory: Part 1

Theme: My story reveals a relentless and lovingly pursuing God who transforms insecurity, regret, and fear into identity, grace, and victory for His glory and the redemption of others.

Mission: Still being discovered…

We can love our past – even the parts we avoid and regret – only if we understand that our story is written for the benefit of others’ stories in the future. We can truly love our life only when we see our story birth new and more glorious stories. – Dan Allender, To Be Told

I am about to reveal to you my story, well parts of my story at least. We all have a story. It is what has brought us to this moment in time and has shaped who we are today. Our stories are important, although it is not something we think about often. Many of us have never took the time to tell our story, let alone write out our story and search for the theme and meaning that points us to what we are called to be. Before we embark on this journey, let me tell you the reasons that brought me to write and reflect on my own story. I am about to graduate from college with a major in Social Work. I have passions and ideas about what I want to do with my career and where I would like to see my life go but more than anything I want to be obedient and willing to Gods will for my life. I have learned over the years that his plans and desires are so much more grand, unimaginable, and exciting then the plans I would ever create for myself. I want to be able to embrace my story to use it for His glory and for the benefit of others. Are stories are not useless, they are not meant to be hidden or shamed. Our struggles, our victories, our regrets, and our joy are meant to be shared with others to point them to Christ and reveal pieces of his character through our own lives. Finally, there are parts of my story that I still need to allow to be redeemed by the God who has already claimed victory over them. Sounds kind of crazy right? What I mean by this is that, yes as a Jesus Follower, Christ has already redeemed every part of my life when he claimed it is finished on the cross. However, because of my own shame and fear that has come along with parts of my story I have held on so tightly for control. There are pain and regret that I must allow God to redeem and use for his glory. I am writing my story to embrace and love my life. I am writing my story to choose to place my joy in the God who saves and reveal that same God to you. I am writing my story to understand how my innate passions and desires reveal Gods calling in my life. Now before I begin telling my story, let me say that this is not a full disclosure session. I believe that there is discretion and wisdom to be used in revealing out stories. Not everything needs to be told to everyone. Part of writing my story is learning to guard my heart. There are parts of my story that will only be told to those that I feel it will benefit, there are parts that will only be told to the trusted few who will guard and cherish my story, there are other parts that will only be revealed to God himself as he continues to redeem my life and bring me from only glory to the next. However, our story is created to be shared, my desire is to point you towards a God who brings about joy and restoration into the lives of his beloved. Dan Allender says it this way, “Since our stories reveal God, no story is ours alone. All our stories are owned by God and reveal truth; therefore no one has the right to say of his story, “This is to weird, painful, boring, shameful, confusing, or dark; therefore I will bury it.” All our stories are meant to be available for the purpose of revealing God and connecting us to one another. How does your story reveal God? How can you use your life for the benefit of others?

Next week, in From Glory to Glory: Part 2 I will begin to journey through the story that God has carefully written into my life.

The ‘New’ Side Chick: I Was Her

Queens take a stand

Miss T. N. king

A side chick is commonly known as a mistress or a woman that’s romantically involved with a man who is in a committed relationship.  However after doing some reflecting, I realize that’s not the only type of side chick.  I want to discuss “the new side chick”–a woman who decides to stay by a man’s side after he has expressed his lack of relationship intentions with her through his words or actions.  So many women have made this mistake at least once in their lifetime, and unfortunately I’ve done the same thing.

I like to think of the new side chick as an appetizer.  You’re there just to satisfy the immediate appetite of the man, but as soon as that mouth-watering entrée comes out to the table, you will get pushed to the side, literally.  Why?  Because that entrée is what he really wanted; he went to the restaurant to…

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17 Things To Expect When You Date A Girl Who’s Used To Being On Her Own


Thought Catalog

1. Expect her to do her own thing often and without letting you know, at least at first. It’s not that you don’t matter; it’s just that she’s learned to love doing what she wants, when she wants, and without asking permission or informing anyone.

2. She’ll probably want to take things slowly because she’ll not be used to all the attention. Don’t think she doesn’t like you enough, she probably likes you a lot; it’s just all new to her.

3. Expect her friends to be overprotective of her and to be suspicious of you at first. They’re not used to her being with someone and they’ll want to make sure you’re the kind of guy who will treat her well.

4. She’ll have a hard time letting you do things for her. Try not to take this personally. She’s just used to taking care of herself and it’ll…

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